Holiday Greetings from Conversations New York (CNY)

CNY Montage

Dear CNY Friends, Colleagues, and Fellow Conversational Activists,

We wish you a joyous farewell to 2014, filled with loving, meaningful, astonishing conversations!

THANK YOU for your interest, support, and involvement which made this last 12 months immensely successful for all of us.

We have an even more exciting year planned for 2015, including city-wide conversations about LOVE around Valentine’s Day, our second annual CONVERSATIONS DAY in June, and possibly a second CONFERENCE at Columbia later in the year.

Hope to see you at our first gathering of 2015, at Columbia on Thursday, January 29th, for a Socratic Conversation at 4:00 followed by a CNY Meeting at 5:30.

Gratefully,
Ron  and Your CNY Team

CNY Committee Meeting – Dec 19

CNY  Committee Meeting, Fri., Dec. 19th,  5:00, followed by gala Social Event nearby

MEET YOUR FELLOW CNY LEADERS!  CELEBRATE OUR 2014 ACCOMPLISHMENTS!  PLAN OUR  2015 INITIATIVES!   Youwill receive CNY‘s latest tips and tools to make Conversations exhilarating!   Your energy, imagination, and involvement are needed.  Where: Empire Szechuan Village,
173 7th Ave S
New York, NY 10014
(between Perry St & S 7 Ave)
Phone: (212) 243-6046Who: Volunteer leaders of CNY — moderators, volunteers, advisors, contributors

When: Fri., Dec. 19, 5:00 – 6:45

RSVP at http://www.meetup.com/Conversations-New-York/events/219196949/

Agenda:

  1. Celebrate CNY‘s year of accomplishments
  2. Update on November conversations
  3. Recent Public Policy Conversation in partnership with the Interactivity Foundation (D.C.)
  4. Briefing on upcoming initiatives for 2015 including Conversation Day and others.
  5. Commitments to moderate, volunteer, contribute to the calendar, team up to implement projects, etc.
After this  celebration/work session, we’ll adjourn to join the gala event below at the nearby 49 Grove Club,  to contribute our distinctive CNY energy to this high-octane event!

Winter Solstice Party 2014

  • Friday, December 19, 2014

  • 49 Grove

    49 Grove St (btw Christopher St and 7th Ave), New York, NY(map)
  • Annual RNY Winter Solstice Party!
  • Join us for the Winter Solstice on Friday, Dec 19 at the upscale 49 Grove in the West Village.
    This annual event is hosted by Reasonable New York, a consortium of free-thinking, philosophical, and secular social clubs based in NYC and surrounding areas.
    Expect 100+ free-thinkers of all ages for an evening of food, drink, dancing, and socializing.
    Admission is free.
    Join us on the 19th and make new friends and connections with other inquisitive New Yorkers – this is an annual event not to be missed!

    $14 Specialty Cocktails for $7!
    $5 Beers
     Tapas Menu & Full Drink Bar Available – Please Tip Generously!
    HOSTING GROUPS
    Center for Inquiry – New York City
    Center for Inquiry – Long Island
    Dinner & Philosophy Now
    Ethical Humanist Society of L.I.
    Feminist Freethinkers of New York
    Gotham Atheists
    Humanist Society of Metro New York
    New York City Brights
    New York City Skeptics
    New York Philosophy
    New York Society for Ethical Culture
    Secular Coalition of New York
    Secular Humanist Society of New York

    Hope You Can Join Us!

Halloween for Thinkers: Let’s Talk Back to Death — by Affirming Life!

Halloween for Thinkers: Let’s Talk Back to Death — by Affirming Life!

with Ron Gross

 

Thursday, Oct. 30, 4:00 SHARP – 5:15 pm

Teachers College, Columbia University

525 West 120th Street  (bet. Broadway and Amsterdam Ave. – 116th St. stop on the #1 train)

Room 305 Russell Hall

 

RSVP to grossassoc@aol.com — space is limited

and CNY Meetup http://www.meetup.com/Conversations-New-York/events/210285442/

 

Please bring photo ID required for entry to building, and plan to arrive by 3:45 to be courteous to fellow participants.

 

Halloween is a holiday that makes fun of Death. At this Conversation, we’ll be inspired by death-defying mentors from Socrates to Woody Allen.  Let’s use wit, thoughtfulness, and conviviality to deal with the Grim Reaper!   (Costumes are Welcome but optional.)

 

Please join us to share your  convictions, feelings, and hopes.  We’ll be in good company: thousands of  Americans are attending Death Cafes, Death Dinners, and Death Salons (featured on the front page of The New York Times). A Showtime documentary series, Time of Death, focuses on “real people face to face with their own mortality.” An acclaimed recent book, The Death Class: A True Story About Life, reports that there’s a 3-year waiting list to enroll in this offering at Kean University in New Jersey; a similar on-line course, by Professor Shelly Kagan, is available from Yale University.

 

We are learning to talk about death more freely, frankly — and life-affirmingly! Come join the movement to demystify this taboo subject. It can be a significant step in learning how to live.

 

Among the topics we’ll discuss are:

 

  • Does your awareness of your mortality affect the way you are living your life? Should it? How?

 

  • What is one of your favorite novels, movies, TV shows, plays, musical works, or other art that deals with Death?

 

  • What happens after death? Do you feel that you are still somehow in contact with anyone you have lost?

  • Do you feel that you’ve thought enough about mortality, to sort out your ideas and feelings in ways that are satisfying to you?

 

  • Do you have any strong convictions about what you would like to happen at the end of your life? Should we have The Pill?

 

CNY Members please note:  This conversation will be followed at 5:45 by the monthly meeting of the CNY Steering Committee, which you are warmly welcome to join!

 

Friendship – Apr 17

Friendship

Socratic Conversation with Ron Gross

Thursday, April 17, 4-5:15pm

Please arrive by 3:45.pm

 

Gottesman Library, Teachers College
525 West 120th St.  – between Broadway & Amsterdam Avenues, north side of street 
#1 train to 116th St.
RSVP to grossassoc@aol.com and http://www.meetup.com/Conversations-New-York/events/176548712/

 

A photo ID is required for admission to building.
PLEASE ARRIVE BY 3:45.
There will be a display of relevant books.
Coffee and refreshments can be purchased as you enter the Library.


Please come to share our experiences, understanding, and questions, including:

(1)What kind of friend do you try to be?

(2)What do you seek from your friends?

(3)Does friendship “just happen” and “grow naturally” –

or are there skills and techniques that can be helpful?

What’s one you’ve learned?

(4)Is friendship different at different stages of life?

(5)Do women’s and men’s friendships differ? How?

(6)How do you feel about re-connecting with old friends  with whom you have lost touch,  via Internet searching or other means?

(7) Are your friendships affected by digital technologies?

(Those Facebook “Friends”…)

(8) What is one of your favorite portrays of friendship in literature, movies, TV, or other genres?  (Like Friends,  Seinfeld, or….?)

(9)What happens when friendships change, falter, or fail?

 

Optional Reading:
Available free on-line:
Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics: Book VIII
Michael de Montaigne, On Friendship

Other:
Jacques Derrida, The Politics of Friendship
Steve Duck, Friends,For Life: The Psychology  of Personal Relationships
Joseph Epstein, Friendship: An Expose

Next Socratic Conversation: Thursday, 5/29.

“Are You Too Self-Critical?….or, Over-Confident? Do Men and Women Differ?” – June 20

Are You Too Self-Critical?

Or, Over-Confident?

Do Men and Women Differ?Thursday, June 20, 3:45 – 5:00 pm
Gottesman Library, Teachers College, 525 West 120th St., Second Floor
(Between Broadway and Amsterdam Avenues — 116th St./Columbia University stop on the #1 train)
Hosted by Ron GrossRSVP at http://www.meetup.com/Conversations-New-York/events/122481962/

Please join us to share your experiences, reflections, and insights.

  • Do women tend to be more self-critical of themselves, and do men tend to be too self-flattering?
  • A generation after the feminist revolution, are women still, on average, less confident than men? Are there differences in the assertiveness of women in classroom situations, and in work and family roles?
  • In our professional lives, is there a confidence gap between men and women?
  • Is self-criticism undervalued in our culture, in favor of assertiveness?
  • Which causes more problems — in personal life, professional life, and political life — overconfidence or underconfidence?
  • How can we best meld self-criticism and self-promotion?

These important questions were posed recently by David Brooks, author of The Social Animal and a regular Op-Ed columnist for The New York Times, who invited his readers — and us — to respond. We will — and we’ll review the most interesting responses he has received so far.

There will be a display of relevant books. Light refreshments will be available.

Next session: Thursday, Thursday, July 11th, 3:45 pm

For more information: www.SocratesWay.com/join.html

“Are You Too Self-Critical?….or, Over-Confident? Do Men and Women Differ?” – June 20

Are You Too Self-Critical?

Or, Over-Confident?

Do Men and Women Differ?Thursday, June 20, 3:45 – 5:00 pm
Gottesman Library, Teachers College, 525 West 120th St., Second Floor
(Between Broadway and Amsterdam Avenues — 116th St./Columbia University stop on the #1 train)
Hosted by Ron Gross

RSVP at http://www.meetup.com/Conversations-New-York/events/122481962/

Please join us to share your experiences, reflections, and insights.

  • Do women tend to be more self-critical of themselves, and do men tend to be too self-flattering?
  • A generation after the feminist revolution, are women still, on average, less confident than men? Are there differences in the assertiveness of women in classroom situations, and in work and family roles?
  • In our professional lives, is there a confidence gap between men and women?
  • Is self-criticism undervalued in our culture, in favor of assertiveness?
  • Which causes more problems — in personal life, professional life, and political life — overconfidence or underconfidence?
  • How can we best meld self-criticism and self-promotion?

These important questions were posed recently by David Brooks, author of The Social Animal and a regular Op-Ed columnist for The New York Times, who invited his readers — and us — to respond. We will — and we’ll review the most interesting responses he has received so far.

There will be a display of relevant books. Light refreshments will be available.

Next session: Thursday, Thursday, July 11th, 3:45 pm

For more information: www.SocratesWay.com/join.html

CREATIVE AGING: New Ways to Thrive and Contribute Throughout Our Ever-Longer Life-Spans – May 30

CREATIVE AGING:
New Ways to Thrive and Contribute
Throughout Our Ever-Longer Life-Spans

Thurs., May 30, 3:45 sharp — 5:15 pm sharp
Gottesman Library, Teachers College, 525 West 120th St.

RSVP at http://www.meetup.com/Conversations-New-York/events/121003972/

Socrates himself reached the peak of his powers at the age of 70 (not an easy feat in those days) – and he would have continued growing, learning, and ‘kicking butt’ if he hadn’t been sentenced to death by hemlock!

  1. Do you have concerns about the future well-being of the elders in your life – your parents or grandparents? Are we victims of “Ageism” — stereotyping people on the basis of their age?
  2. Are you now or do you anticipate sharing responsibility for an elders’ quality-of-life?
  3. Are you aware that your own eventual “successful aging” will depend importantly on some things you do now? (“If I’d known I was going to live so long, I would have taken better care of myself.”)

At this Conversation we will share our experiences with aging and with those elders who have touched our lives.

Please come to share your experiences and reflections:

What does Aging mean to you?

Do you feel that there are stereotypes, prejudices, and social practices that harm older adults (“Ageism”)?

What are your concerns for and about the elders in your life?

What do you hope will characterize your own later years, in terms of life-style, activities, opportunities, and supports?

Light refreshments will be available. There will be a display of relevant publications.

Suggested optional reading:

The Third Chapter, Sara Lawrence-Lightfoot (Sarah Crichton Books, Farrar, Straus and Giroux, New York 2009)